Scroll through any social media channel, and you are hit with a tidal wave of positivity. Inspirational quotes, self-help book recommendations, Instagram captions- It can feel like you are not loving yourself enough. You might feel like you want to love yourself, and you understand how important it is, but the thoughts in your mind automatically default to negative.
When you have a strong sense of self-love, you understand your own value and treat yourself in a loving way. Unlike narcissism, which is excessive self-absorption and self-interest, self-love is a positive trait. Loving yourself means having a good understanding of both your strengths and weaknesses.
Once we get used to thinking a certain way, we need to bombard ourselves with positivity to reprogram our minds and get them back on track.
Love word is often associated with romantic love, but it’s important to remember to also show love and appreciation for ourselves. Self-love is the foundation for all healthy relationships, and it’s essential for our well-being and happiness. Here are some ways to practice self-love this year:
- Take time for self-care. This can include activities like taking a relaxing bath, reading a book, or doing yoga. Do something that makes you feel good and helps you recharge.
- Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a close friend. Don’t be too hard on yourself and forgive yourself for any mistakes or missteps.
- Surround yourself with positive influences. Spend time with people who uplift and support you, and limit your exposure to negativity.
- Celebrate your accomplishments. Take a moment to reflect on your achievements and all the things you’re proud of. Write them down and keep them somewhere you can see them often.
- Set realistic goals. Create a plan for the things you want to achieve, but make sure your goals are achievable and don’t set yourself up for disappointment.
- Indulge in your passions. Whether it’s cooking, painting, or playing an instrument, do what you love and what makes you feel fulfilled.
- Get adequate rest and nutrition. Taking care of your physical health is key to feeling good and having the energy to pursue the things you love.
- List the things you love about yourself. And I mean everything. Get as specific as you can. Include aspects of your personality, things about your appearance, your actions, etc. Nothing is too random.
We may have been told that we “can’t expect anyone to love us until we learn to love ourselves.” But for those of us who’ve experienced childhood trauma, and difficult relationships learning to love ourselves may be a little difficult.
The good news is that self-love is actually a skill you can develop — much like self-confidence or self-trust. And it’s an important one. Most of us tend to toss away compliments instead of embracing and internalizing them. Get into the habit of embracing compliments, acknowledgements, and any other positive regard people want to throw your way.
Self-love is a journey, and it takes time and effort to develop. But with a little patience and self-care, you can create a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself.
